Elly, I love Yalom, except that he is sometimes so clinical and "male"--looking forward to checking out this author! Thanks!Read More...

(((((Chris))))) First of all, you are going and have gone through A LOT. Second of all, THANK YOU for typing all that info, because I know that it must have taken a lot of effort to put it together right, and to even think for that matter due to the condition you suffer must have been EXTREMELY hard.. I can definately tell you are a VERY strong individual, and that you have HOPE inside you.. It's there wailing out for someone to rescue you from the UTTER HELL you're experiencing. NEVER LOSE...Read More...

Heh, I knew that it will be phisical touch.. and I recieved 10 points at this.Read More...

Am I correct in thinking their is a film based on the book, off the same name.Read More...

Magia, I feel your painRead More...

I've heard good things about this one: http://www.amazon.com/Self-Com...eywords=kristin+neffRead More...

Had a great session with T, talking about the parts of the book I have read so far. I took in a copy of the passages that really hit home. He asked to read them, for he wanted to know what parts resonated with me...also, I think we stumbled upon something that has been tripping me up when doing EMDR. I think this is the stuck point that he was always referring to, which, at the time, I didn't know what he meant. Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD has become my new best friend. LJBRead More...

Hi Hollow, I wouldn't call them eloquent, but here's a couple of posts from my blog that might help. What I Learned in Therapy Lesson 4: It wasn’t my fault Learning developmental skills: Identifying and Expressing needs AGRead More...

Hi Jillann, I've read Kristin Neff's book... I did manage it all and have gone back to it and dipped in and out when I need the "be kind to yourself" message on repeat. But I found her personal stuff difficult to read (only because of my fertility issues) and I'm not sure I enjoyed it exactly or would recommend it particularly. I too found her through Brene Brown. AG - have just downloaded this to kindle. Sounds very interesting.... thanks for the recommendation. I'm not sure what it is...Read More...

OK - I just finished reading this last weekend. I agree that it was an interesting read. All the attachment stuff was very thought provoking. However, I found the main characters self knowledge to be somehow too much. My father who grew up in foster care of the 1940's does not have that much self awareness of his own limitations. FWIW. It was a good read - very thought provoking. I want to get a flower dictionary now. Thanks for the reccomendation Liese JillannRead More...

(((TAS))) This was my T's reason for the no email policy: You're right, my T is a good, sound therapist. Which is why I hope I can work through this. (((AG))) I think you're right. As I talked about abandonment yesterday, I felt my childhood losses so profoundly. I knew it was bad, but I didn't know just how much I had blocked off mentally and emotionally. Coming face-to-face with the depth of it nearly threw me into despair. I know I need to talk about this stuff. I will try. (((TN)))...Read More...

Thank you so much ((((DRAGGERS)))). I know what needs to be done. Struggling with all of it. I wish I had someone to share this painful journey with, to talk to about it, but looking back.. .I cannot believe how much I struggled silently with in this therapeutic journey. Things I haven't shared with T because I know she just won't help me anyway. She will not give me the things I need... in ways, she just complicates the whole journey even more. I feel oddly alone.Read More...

it's interesting to read all of your thoughts and experiences with anxiety. welcome, (((LTB))) and thanks for sharing! alas, no, i don't speak Spanish outside of a handful of words. although I can understand it, i don't relate too much with your "brand" of anxiety, but i do appreciate you sharing your experiences and find it interesting to see how it affects people differently. (((kmay))) it's good to see you posting again. I also run when anxious, but i run inside of myself and hide in...Read More...

Thank you LilTeaBag And GG I am glad the ICU analogy soothed you LilTeaBag...it did me too actually. I am working on the emailing. It is good for me. Just have to find the time...after my kids go to bed if I have any energy left! lolRead More...

Hi Anna. Im a new member but ive read your post... What a horrible person your T is. I dont know you but im so angry at him for acting like that and leaving you like this. I hope you can gather strength and find a new T very soon. I hope u are doing ok, please fight and don't let this bring you down (i mean i know it's done already, but please try to come up). Your value has nothing to do with the horrible attitude of that T. You deserve better. Pls give us news...Read More...

This is good to know, and comforting to read. I fit it most of the described points. I had never really thought about my Dad's drinking as a potential trigger/cause for my issues.Read More...

Hey LilTeaBag, Lol..well does your T work full time at College as well? Maybe you should PM me where you live? Don't freak out...all is good Do you know how to private message? (PM). Where are you trying to post? What section? I have never had one say "request being processed". But what you can do, if you can private message, is message True North. She is a co-moderator for the Forum, so she can help you with that. Let me know if you have any other questions. It is such a great support...Read More...

Thanks for the nice Welcome i havent properly introduced myself anywhere because i cant seem to be able to post new discussion or add people or pm Shrinklady.. Aaah!! But in the meantime, im here encountering ppl and yes, relating to so many stories! I wish u the best for your new T, hopefully u'll get a good connection. Up until then, yes i can see how it can be difficult and everything takes you a little more on the edge. Just a thought, have you tried singing the song outloud, like trying...Read More...

Monts, I am glad you posted long enough for me to read it - I really appreciated what you wrote and it helped me. Sorry you had to delete and I really understand. SDRead More...

BLT: Thank you. I am petrified at the thought of asking him if he is judging me. I will work on this. You gave me a couple of ideas to get through this and I appreciate this. I am determined not to give up. I believe I can get through this and I appreciate your supportive input T. Erica: You truly did not come across as dismissive. Thank you for talking with me about this and sharing your experiences. I know I just have to keep hammering away. He comes back this week and when I think of his...Read More...

I especially appreciate this talk about therapists offering good feelings, as I'm at that stage in therapy, too. I've finally admitted to Transference and I'm so relieved. T has said all my child feelings, even back to 1 yrs. old, are welcome. What a wonderful, yet scary, feeling!! But I'm not ready for touch, even tho I probably will be. I feel it's great that we all can come here and express whatever we experience. I'm OK that you, PF, and others, are receiving some good vibes from your T.Read More...

TAS - I cracked up with the thermostat. Sorry, not that the tantrum was funny. I'm sorry you were pissed. I was just trying to imagine a T's face after realizing the temp was changed. My T's response was pretty amazing. After he had me say it again, he then told me he felt helpless and was heartbroken and hurting that he had to leave me for so long. He knew I would not be okay and he said he was so sorry. He said he would never want to hurt me and that he cares about me. His response to my...Read More...

Found this while looking through old posts and thought I'd bump it up. It has great tips!! PFRead More...

Hi MsC - I’m so glad for the aha moment! I love those! Hi TAS - You didn’t ramble at all. I’m so sorry it’s taken me awhile to reply. I am sorry to hear about your mom’s overdose and that you found her. I can’t imagine the confusion, sadness, and pain surrounding that and being a toddler not knowing what to do with all those feelings. I can see how strong young attachment feelings can be triggered by someone safe. I have a toddler and his tantrums when I leave the house give me a glimpse...Read More...

Hi Yaku... glad you are basically feeling good and are doing well with missing a session. I'm not good with dreams but I would say that having T hold you in a blanket while you sleep has to be such a wonderful feeling. How utterly safe and cared for that feels. And then "S" seemed like a threat to having that hug or ability to snuggle with T. Then you wake up and are without T so it feels like a loss which can leave you feeling out of sorts. I know that when I wake from a super lovely dream...Read More...