I am so sorry it didn't work out with your first T.. mustn't have been easy I can imagine.
I have to admit, I'm having a hard time talking about it. Even with my new T, but especially with my relationship T. I've been hinting so many times I want to talk about something important and she keeps on pushing it away... So I don't see why she wouldn't push it away when I say everything out loud.
My new T doesn't seem to feel very comfortable with it either.. although we've been talking about it. But maybe it's just me, cause my last appointment with her she said she didn't understand why I found it so difficult to talk about this & seemed so ashamed about it.. and that there was no reason for it.
It was the first time she told me that it was ok to feel these things.. which felt such a relief!
With my relationship T, I'm having the feeling she had a bad experience with transference before. It's just a guess off course but my gut feeling is pointing me in that direction..
(But maybe that's just my fantasy of thinking us talking about this would help her move beyond a previous bad experience as much as me. Could be possible )
I think I'm going to write my relationship counselor an email asking her about the reasons why it feels like some things can't be talked about.. and pointing out to her it's really necessary for me to be able to move beyond certain things, because without them I won't be able to grow in our relationship either. And see how she reacts...
She can't not respond to a very specific question like that.
Tnx for the support by the way. Already is helping a lot to be able to talk about it with you guys!
C