Reply to "what does dependency on your T mean?"

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so, if i understand you right, i can't move away from my coffee mug until after i have developed better self-regulation, emotional tolerance, and coping skills in T? or, i can't move away from the dependence until after i've developed these things? i hope you're still around, BLT. i do appreciate your input.

Uh, well, one or the other. I think how it often happens is you first start to move away from your negative coping mechanisms but then you are leaning on your T for dear life. Then gradually you can stand on your own a little more, along with leaning on other people in your life.

In my own case, one thing I've gotten better at is getting through conflicts with my H without numbing out, SI, screaming, etc. But there have been times where to get through I was literally emailing her several times a day to vent, or for a while I had an object from her that I carried around with me in my purse, etc.

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