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(((erica))), i can also regulate my emotions for the most part (T might argue too much so!). he has given me the green light on email, but he made it clear that it's because i don't disclose much when i email. and the few times i did email him (and the ONE time i phoned him) it was very difficult to do because of the needy/annoying/dependent stuff you wrote about. i sure do relate.

what i've discussed with my T regarding dependency is that i don't want to become dependent on him. for the whole need/annoying/dependent thing as well as the "this issa gonna have to end" thing. you want me to attach knowing full-well this is gonna end? huh? it's a whole 'nother struggle and there are threads out there regarding this.

why do we feel so much shame and loathing because of therapy? right now i'm feeling pissed that we have been brain-washed into feeling ashamed and self-loathing for getting help for ourselves. what the hell?!? maybe that's what your T meant, erica: that despite the fact that you've been made to believe that it's shameful to get help when you need it, you go anyway. that IS brave! it defies the messed-up thinking that you've been made to believe. so ... there! Smiler

what you've said IS relevant and thank you for sharing your dependency experience Hug two
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