Thanks BLT and Liese for your responses.

Liese: Interesting stuff re: Deborah Lott. I know that there are real feelings happening in the room with my T. Honestly that is the hardest part. I've basically convinced myself that I am delusional regarding her because that makes it easier to disconnect the emotion I am trying so hard to fight. But when I allow myself to think about the real things that triggered this to begin with, it is even more scary! Truth is I think my therapist and I have a lot in common from the things I've picked up over time about her personality/background. The reality for me is that if I wasn't married, and she wasn't my therapist, I think we might be very compatible human beings. She has responded to things about my life and my situation with some pretty unguarded reactions. In fact very often she even comments about reeling in her own reactions in session. I'm not an egotistical person whatsoever, but from a purely objective standpoint I think there is something about me that is triggering some sort emotion for her as well. Whatever that emotion is I don't know, and probably never will. I'm almost to the place that I feel like I should just stop sessions with her and find a male therapist. But then I'd feel like a jerk for terminating sessions with her without explanation. To answer your question, there probably is very little she'd be able to say to reassure me.