Reply to "Update on Transference"
A thought just occurred to me- Is there some way to deal with transference with your therapist without making the transference be about your therapist? Like if I could somehow deal with the underlying root causes of the problem? Maybe I could ask her if we could focus on childhood in some way? This is why a book that really delved in to the issue more deeply would be so helpful. Then I could try to get in tune with where it is coming from on a deeper level and bring those deeper issues up in therapy. Maybe that seems a bit dishonest, but bypassing the whole part of the conversation where I have to admit to having embarrassing feelings for her would make it so much easier! According to this whole concept of transference this is all rooted in my early experiences to begin with, so why are these delusional misplaced feelings of affection even important? The underlying issues are what need to be dealt with right? So maybe I just pinpoint what those are and bring those up to her? I'm just grasping at straws here. It all makes perfect sense in my head though!