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Reply to "Update on Transference"

Thank you AG for showing me how to quote, and also for your blog. I read the attachment link you posted and it was very interesting. I definitely relate to a lot of what you wrote, although I haven't told T about any of it.

BLT, thank you for the very clear description of attachments, that was very helpful. I am still a little confused about where attachment ends and transference begins, but I understand a little more now.

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I came across transference feelings sooner than that, maybe 2 months into therapy.

Sometimes I'm also scared that maybe one of these days these feelings will go out of proportion and I'll lose control/go completely insane and invade his privacy and behave inappropriately towards him, maybe he'll call the police and get angry at me and I'll never see him again. But I think this is a thought that comes from the fear of being rejected after exposing myself and my feelings to him.



Eliana, I also started to feel these feelings much earlier on, but I dismissed them because they didn't make sense to me, and I thought it would pass. But in the past few weeks it's only gotten much much stronger, and I also fear that the feelings will get out of control causing me to invade T's privacy (which is not something I would ever do on purpose.) I just feel like I can't control my thoughts and feelings, and that is very frightening. But I agree that it probably stems from a fear of rejection.

It does help to know that I am not the only one experiencing this. I never knew until now that it was so common. I am glad I decided to post, and thankful for all of the responses. Makes me feel like I matter :-)
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