Thank Dragonfly and June,

To answer some of your questions Dragonfly, what I know about my T's credentials is that she is a licenesed marriage and family therapist. I have had private sessions with her before, so I could meet with her alone. You may be right that she wouldn't tell my wife but my fear is that if I told her how I feel and she did decide to refer my wife and I to someone else, I may have to explain why. OR, she may come up with a more general reason to explain to my wife to make things easier.

I have read that marriage therapists are not the best when it comes to transference because they don't necessarily believe in the idea. Thoughts anyone?

June, you may be right about the confidential thing. I didn't think about that. I'm just not sure how it would work sine she also has to help with my marital issues. It depends on how she prioritizes the issues I guess.

Just knowing that somebody has read my post has made feel better. Keeping all this inside has been hard. I read a lot of this thread a month ago and reading it made me feel better for a short time. I hope that I can get over this soon. It's just that every time I go, all the feelings come back. Weeks go by, I start to feel better then it's time to see her again. And every time, the feelings come back even stronger. I suppose telling her my feelings before I try to leave makes sense, I just don't know if I can bring myself to do it.

But thank you both for your thoughts. They are greatly appreciated! I will take this info. to heart.