When does transference become obsession??

The reason I ask is because I have too much time on my hands today and I am once again surfing the web on transference. I haven’t done that since I found this site and all I needed to know right here. Now I wish I hadn’t because there is so much crap out there. Anyway, I see that some Psychologists have written pages that give a negative slant to transference or the potential of it becoming obsessive. One quote that I absolutely hate from a Psychologist is, “I avoid clients who are just oozing with transference.” That’s probably better for the client anyway, don’t ya think?

I struggle with feeling obsessive at times, but am I? I want to feel FREE to continue to express myself-no holds barred, but sometimes it is a bit frightening to worry if it is ever crossing the line. (Gee I wonder if anyone else feels that way-LOL) Many clients admit that we think of our T’s all the time, fantasize about them, call them between sessions, discuss them and our sessions on forum, Google them, and some have even driven by their homes for curiosity sake. When does it become too much? Obviously stalking is wrong and indicates some sort of “threatening situation,” so that is not what I am talking about.

Sometimes transference can FEEL obsessive-especially when your T has been out of town for 2 weeks…(In the words of Charlie Brown, “UGH!”)

Anyway, just wondering how anyone else feels about this?

JM