One thing that I have recently learned is that aquired knowledge is just that; it does not sink in to the parts where we need to feel stuff to change (the limbic brain parts- I guess)

Also- I recently discovered that my T is a substitute for me to work out relationships in my life- past and present. He allows me to practice through him. (I think you said something to that affect as well)

Too bad we can't shorten this process with head knowledge, but it just doesn't work that way.