MTF and starfish,

Thanks for your replies. The more responses I read, the more I think that being a guy - seeing a male T - has a lot to do with our different experiences. But then again, I'm thinking that, as you all have said, our particular issues are what influence what actually happens in the experience.

So, if you're someone with a really clear trauma that you're trying to address, that's going to be totally different than if you're someone with a raging unconscious conflict that is causing horrible symptoms (this is more my situation). Of course, the situations probably include a bit of both to some extent.

What's interesting is that I have a major attachment to my T, more than I even would like to admit. If he somehow didn't exist starting today, or I couldn't see him anymore, it would destroy me.

It sounds like most everyone who has a dynamic with their T that involves touching, hugging, etc, find it positive and even critical. I'm curious to know if people ever become frustrated because, for example, the light touching and/or hugging may be the limit of the contact. What happens if the client demands (or expects) more and becomes upset and confused when it doesn't progress to something deeper, like it might normally do under ideal circumstance with a parent or partner? Or if the contact is not consistent?

Thanks again for all the fantastic thoughts.
Russ