I just wanted to chime in and say, that the outcome of a conversation about projection isn't necessarily to discover whether you are "right" in observing something, it is about what you perceive, why, how it affects you, and where it comes from. I would be surprised if your T confirmed or denied your suspicions-- in the end, his attraction, or lack thereof, is his own.

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I'm more interested in what my T thinks/feels about me because of my desire to separate projection from reality - or his stuff from my stuff.

YOUR perception is YOUR reality because that's what's making you tick, that's what's making your head spin, that's what keeps you up at night. If you're convinced he's attracted to you, you start there. He's already drawn a physical boundary, so that much is clear.

So what if he's not attracted to you after all-- you had a feeling about it, right? And it's worth listening to that.

Best of luck sorting through this-- and I totally get it, the desire to KNOW!!!