Back again.
I had another thought. I was thinking that it feels good and empowering to believe that we are attractive and can have an impact on the world. So, what if you started there? Just assume your T is attracted to you and nothing would ever happen. Surely in our lives there are times when we are attracted to others and/or them to us but we can't act on the feelings because they are not available or we are not available, etc. So ET in therapy is not something that only happens in therapy. So, back to assuming it's all true. You feel it. He feels it. Nothing can happen. How do you want the relationship to develop from here? What feelings do you want to listen to that are coming from you?
In my experience with my therapist, not being able to get emotional feedback when he was not comfortable was very difficult and felt like a dark hole that I fell into. Having someone who is able to contain your feelings while you sort through them is soo important to moving on but this is a difficult topic. Not being able to discuss them can cause the feelings to fester.
Managing the feelings when they happen and guiding ourselves to where we want to be anyway is ultimately where we want to go with all of this. But getting out of the space of "does he" or "doesn't he" and what it all means is so very hard to do when you can't get feedback from the other. Does that make sense or I am just rambling? I just woke up so I'm not sure I am coherent.