Reply to "Sexual Tension?"

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Oh Hun - your father abusing you 'just once' was once too many.

I know AG has a lot on her blog about erotic transference that I've read and has helped me make sense if things. I think having experienced sexual abuse by a male caregiver must make transference and erotic transference so much more complicated also. So it's really no wonder yr mind is going a bit all over the place trying to find meaning with what you're thinking, feeling, and trying to sort out what might be 'real' and what might be plain old projection / transference!

Do you think it's BECAUSE you know nothing will ever happen with your T; that he won't EVER act out in a sexual way with you, that that means you feel safe enough to have the fantasies?

Sorry I don't have any real words of wisdom or great suggestions (other than looking over AGs blog perhaps if you haven't already).

Have you ever talked to yr T about the erotic transference?

7/19/141:06 PM

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