You hit the transfenrce issues, borderline, trauma and being actively abused, on the head. I've never been able to hope for any kind of relationship with anybody before - even though a forced relationship. I will ask my t what she thinks about transference issues and hear what she says. I have to deal with these issues to help understand the attachment to her. She does tend to avoid these kind of topics ans just says that I shouldn't read everything on the internet....
I need to feel again