Thank you for your consideration AG.

I think this thread is a good idea. Personally I don't really care about the BPD diagnosis. I own the behaviors. In my case with the T I just left, those are the only traits she got to see "the borderline" ones because the borderline came out in me in that relationship. It does not in others. Each professional has their own opinion. The psychologist I returned to has done MMPI testing and other psychological testing on me plus treated me for 4 years so I trust her opinion. For me the value is in learning what relationships trigger off those behaviors and how to tame those behaviors so that I don't find them necessary. I want to have healthy relationships and I especially want to have a healthy relationship with the T I left. I am glad that even though painful, I am stepping away and reassessing myself and searching for healthier ways to respond to my own feelings. I value that relationship and I value her and I want that to be reflective in my therapy.