This is an interesting question, About. I think in good therapy, there's a delicate balance between feeling in control and being challenged to take risks and think differently. BUT - you have to feel comfortable and safe before you can be challenged. Feeling in control is so important! It sounds like your childhood T did not do a good job of helping you feel comfortable, safe, and in control. When she challenged you, you had no foundation of trust and safety there. Of course that would've been hard for you, especially as a young child! It does not sound like productive, warm, or safe therapy. I can see why your current situation is bringing up memories/feelings about your experience as a child. Do you think you can explain to your step-in T why you would like to know the time? The reasons you gave are very legitimate (my T has 2 clocks too and I really like knowing how much time I have too).