I'm so sorry you lost your response...TWICE, no less...I just HATE it when that happens...here, I'll growl with you...grrrrrrrr. Here's a mad face, too.
I'm really glad, though, to hear that the Circle of Security diagram and the description of our experience of it was helpful to you!
One thing I should say, though...and I really hope this doesn't dampen your enthusiasm, because that isn't my intention at all...but I did just recently end the therapy with the couples T who showed us this.
One of the main reasons I ended it is because it felt like these concepts didn't go "far enough" in helping us. Kind of like our marriage got first aid, when what it really needed, in the long run, was surgery. And when I think about the fact that this model was made for use in correcting attachment patterns in actual parent-child interactions, and is not used directly in application for treating adult relationships...it makes some sense now. But that is not to say this diagram isn't useful or helpful to a degree...it IS, and WAS very useful in understanding why and how we were turning away from each other...using it gave us a great beginning on the therapy...apparently we started with such a BANG that our couples T seemed to change his view of our marriage, saying we were almost "done" and started trying to end sessions early...and that really did not sit well with me at all. We tried to repair, and we gave it another chance...but despite some reassurances to the contrary, it really felt to me like he stopped giving us therapy at the point he started ending sessions early. He would start every session with "so how do you want to use our time today?" and kept repeating the admonition to make sure and "come prepared"...when, if anything, I come OVERprepared. And a lot of what I was bringing up wasn't being "heard" by our couples T OR my husband. So it just felt to me like it wasn't working, for whatever reason. And whether I'm imagining it or not, I did not want to spend any more energy trying to repair the therapeutic relationship, when what I really want to focus on is repairing my marriage. I want the therapeutic relationship to be fairly good from the beginning...much like the one with my individual T. So I decided to end it.
At any rate, I would love to hear what your T says about it if you'd like to share. I'd also love to hear what success you have with these ideas in your own therapy (well, truthfully, with any other ideas for that matter).
One other thing I wanted to tell you is, I was reading an online magazine today and thought of you because there's an article in there about equine therapy!! Here's a link to the magazine. The article is on page 21.
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Hugs,
SG
p.s. I love your new candle avatar