I am sorry too if my posting saying that I wouldn't find my T's H a threat was in any way undermining to your difficulties. I know what a struggle you have and I am sorry if that big trigger for you felt like it was not being acknowledged
Know too that you were incredibly brave and articulate today and I am glad you walked away feeling his care for you, which is not dependent on anything you may say or do but just on you being you.
fishy