(((TN)))

We have all been preconditioned to let things go. Let it go. Move on. But here, you have shown us that letting things go is not always in our best interests nor is it necessarily the path to intimacy. It doesn't matter how anyone else felt or feels about it. It doesn't matter if it was 100% rational or irrational. It was/is important to you. You are 100% entitled to feel the way YOU do. You expressed it all so well. He listened. He may not have wanted to hear you initially because identifying with you on this matter means that he might have to do something about it or at the very least acknowledge that it is hurting your therapy. Getting over it was in his interests but not yours. Now it seems you feel heard and taken seriously. You feel important to him. The way it should be in intimate relationships.

Brava and bravo!