(((JONES))))

I agree with you re: everything you said. I used to engage in that kind of thinking much more often and found what actually happened was that I was doing a lot more speculating than reality testing. Even if I was right some of the time, kepping my feelings and fears and thoughts to myself did NOT help the relationship nor help us to communicate and have a "meeting of the minds".

It's very difficult for anyone in TN's position where the T's personal life is entangled a bit with his professional life. That makes feelings more difficult to broach and work through with the T because they are more likely to get defensive. We also know bringing up that it's a personal subject might be a boundary violation of sorts. It sucks to be in that position. You want help from the very person who may or may not be able to help you.