quote:My T says I'm important to him but I cannot feel it and think, "yeah, I'm important for 90 minutes a week" and am WAY down on your list of the real life important people. Then it all begins to feel hopeless and I give up trying to connect with him because it only brings me more pain if I do.
Lots of hugs here.
quote:But it does touch on the child who carries the pain of never being the chosen one. Always being the one ignored or abandoned.
And here.
Personally, I don't think there has to be erotic transference involved. Like you said, it's the child who is carrying the pain. Never being protected or stood up for is so damaging and painful. A quick hijack - (((JONES))) I meant to say it "could" be an enactment and caught it after I posted it. I was too tired to edit it and hoped no one caught that.
But the fact that he just can't seem to connect to TN here and help her resolve it leads me to believe that he is not digging deep enough. It's hard to say knowing so little about the two of them but from what TN said, it's almost as if there is a bit of a parent/child relationship going on there. TN, she is quite a bit younger than he is, isn't she? And he's trying to provide guidance and direction? I don't know how it all fits together but there is a puzzle there. (((TN)))
Have they still been hanging around the parking lot chatting after your sessions?