quote:Maybe he thinks he’s done such a good job with you because you’re not letting on how much he means to you?
That, Lamplighter, is a good question. I usually wear a big "I'm soooo independent and ever so well coping" chain-coat, but have spent the last 2 sessions before he left in tears telling him how much I wished he could me my mum. So yes, he knows.
What you said Monte, now makes a lot of sense:
quote:For me I suspect the real healing from this is coming from the painful and gradual acceptance of loss...
It's that, loss, and no upside about it. And t being a away really really painfully makes that clear.
Did anybody read Alice Miller? I particularly like "the body never lies" and "the drama of a gifted child". She talks about how even small seeming things can really mess us up.
I really hope your new t will work out ((Lamplighter))!