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Hi Curious! *waves* I can totally relate to you in how you feel about your T. I started to feel that way towards the end of the school semester and I just felt this overwhelming need to give something to my T. In the end, I gave her a simple but cute card just letting her know how much I appreciate her and everything she's done for me. It wasn't anything big, but she was so thankful for my small gesture and said that it reassured her that she really does make a difference. I think small...Read More...

Waiting for my session...

I used to be in a stunned state of shock when, seemingly out of the blue - My world would crash down on top of me the day/night/next day after my session. Every time I'd be confused about this, the answer from my T is always the same 'It makes sense'. Instead of finding this frustrating, I actually take a lot of solace in it - As the one of us who -should- understand the process, does. I'm generally in the habit of sending an email if the 'truth' that settles with me seems particularly...Read More...
Hi Brokes, thanks for the update. I was wondering how things were going for you with new T. When I started with my T after oldT I also did not experience with him that constant state of anxiety about the relationship. Maybe the grief was overwhelming everything else or maybe without the attachment I just was not so anxious. I don't really know why but it was a relief. I hope things continue to go smoothly for you with new T. I like that you have discussed what you need to get you from...Read More...
Muff - Are you new to therapy? I'd never used one prior to starting either. AG - Thanks very much! It was my 30th, a fairly big one...And happened to fall on our new appointment day (my schedule keeps changing with the new job, and she keeps accommodating me). It wasn't until the end of the session when she asked about my weekend plans and I mentioned a maid appointment later that afternoon because I 'didn't want to clean my house on my birthday'... that my T actually knew it was my...Read More...
Thanks Kansas! I think I'll go to Word now too or just go back to plain old pen and paper. Don't have to worry about technological glitches with that haha. I learned a lesson the hard way yet again bleh just freaking bleh!Read More...
That's cool that you managed to figure that out! Need for approval has been a big issue for me as well. I figured out two things about it: 1. Part of wanting approval for me was keep everyone so distracted with how great I was, so that nobody would find out who I really was. There was an underlying shame thing going on there. 2. Having a good attachment with my T has helped an amazing amount with this. Since I have her care and regard no matter what I do or don't do, I can stop bending over...Read More...

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Muff that's right. It's underestimated how IMPORTANT attachment is for a baby. xoxo, this is interesting. I have happened to be in the company of people who are as complex/have major NPD or so complexities. Two romance interests, one landlady so far, in 3 years. Interestingly these were the kinds of people who were very confident and charming but lacked emotion attunement. Similar to my father. I learnt about myself here. I am easily taken in by people who are confident and secure in...Read More...

Confused

((((SCATTERED)))) Check out the Science of Psychology Related Discussion section. The third topic down is a thread started by TN called, Interesting Article on Dependency. I think that's the article I was referring to. Your T really does sound wonderful but it does sound like you are going to have to stand up for yourself here and tell her that you are not ready for the changes in the email she is proposing and/or that maybe if you had a second session, you wouldn't need to email so much.Read More...
Xoxo - yes, the interaction with adults is definitely a plus and these are really great people, fun, funny, and I know accepting of me already. I think, you know, I've just turned 31. There is plenty of time for what could be without having to worry I've sabotaged myself beyond repair. Like you say, it's not like I have no options at all. I would love it if they would let me do it part-time, but I doubt that's the case. Liese - I should clarify that the 50 hours includes travel time to drop...Read More...
Ah, and this: JICTAADCTNTSO. : Just in case there are any delays, contact the national travel service on.. No, just kidding lol. There will be entire acronym sentences one day, mark my words MMW. Ah, thats a good one! I might write a dictionary and dedicate it to Johnson. Other real ones are (if your feeling particularly down and expressive at the same time and you need to vent, post haste); FML: F**k my life. FFS: For f**k sake.Read More...
TN-- Oops! I think I somehow saw this and didn't register that it's 2012 now! Lol! I'm so messed up emotionally right now that I've been making little mistakes here and there constantly. Anyways, thank you for responding to me. Your story gives me hope. I want to respond more in depth and I will in a bit. I have to get ready for work now, and will be back later. --BrokesRead More...
totally can relate at times! ~ and then I convince myself she doesn't care because I am just paying her - she's pretending. I have gone off my meds a couple of times in the past for the opposite reason...I started feeling better and didn't want to be on them. I feel good for awhile and almost don't realize I'm sliding downwards again until I'm at the bottom. My goal is to get off of them, but this time, which is the first time, I'm doing it with the help of a therapist. I hope you can start...Read More...

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unbroken
Dear Brokes I´m really sorry to hear about your loss. I know how much it can hurt... I´m in deep pain for the loss of my T. I quit therapy on the 16th of December. Sooo many times since then I´ve thought about e-mailing her. I think you were brave to actually do that, even though you knew that you might get hurt if she never responds. You were willing to take that risk. And it was good that you could express your feelings for her, and how this abandonment makes you feel. I´m glad that you...Read More...

Starting or Starting over with a new Therapist

Hi JoeC-- Welcome to the forums! This is a great place. I'm going through what you are at this moment. I just ended with one T after a bad bad bad termination that left me emotionally devastated, and now I am starting with a newT that is great but I really don't know where to begin. You will get some great support here for what you are experiencing. Some of us have been abandoned by therapists, and had to start all over again. There''s a lot of knowledge and a wealth of information if you...Read More...

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hi xoxo, just a quick one to say i hope you're doing better (it sounds like you're doing better in the last couple of posts). i found it sad when you said that you're tired and not a fighter anymore, because I really think you ARE a fighter and always will be. hugs, puppetRead More...
Hey guys, thanks for the responses. Sorry for the late reply here! I think I just have to trust in the moment more. I obsess about monitoring myself and my emotional episodes so much that I cannot 'let go'. I fear doing something 'wrong'. Maybe it's simply a matter of relaxing and letting go and seeing what happens instead of trying to attain emotional enlightenment by tomorrow. Ha. Thanks againRead More...

Hugs: 'simply' comfort or assisting transformation?

I am temporarily closing this thread to wait until Shrinklady has a chance to review it and decide how to handle it and/or to reopen it. I am for obvious reasons recusing myself from making those decisions. This is not an attempt to censor anyone but rather to prevent an out of control situation. As a personal note: Thanks for the kind words and appreciation to those of you who offered such.Read More...
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