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Because the eye contact subject came up on my last session, and it is something I have been struggling with lately, I have noticed I can't tell which colour they are even though I've made a mental note to pay attention to that (maybe brown?). Funny how I have no problem telling the colour of the shoes he uses more often :P
Do you have the same issue?
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Her eyes are this really beautiful blue-green that change color depending on what she's wearing. I have pretty good eye contact with my T anyway but I find myself sometimes just staring at her eyes cos I'm so fascinated with the color. I love colored eyes since mine are just a really super dark brown.
I thought I had a problem (well clearly I do Wink ) because I could never look into her eyes. I ALWAYS avoided eye contact. So I would look out the window and talk, and if I wasn't doing that I would hold my head down in shame and speak while I looked at the ground. I have always done it. She used to try and get me to look at her, but I was never comfortable. It is funny how I often avoid peoples eyes. I wonder what percentage of abused people do that and I wonder what percentage of "normal" people do that.
I have no idea!!!!!

Heck. I am so scared and nervous when I look straight at him that thinking or noting eye colour is way beyond me. I am going to ask him when I next see him.

I suspect they are grey blue, as if they were brown I would have noticed - maybe?

I notice his shirts and trousers and I notice his shoes, since I too look down a lot. And I know the window and what is outside it, in GREAT detail.

He even let me take a photo of him over a year ago and I can't tell from that, either. I suspect blue but darn it, I shall now have to ask! He has light brown hair, well the little of it that is left.
I guess if a persons eyes are the windows to their souls then I'm too ashamed to reveal my soul and I don't feel like I have the right to look deeply into the soul of another. I'm scared they wouldn't want me there.

On the topic of eyes...outside of therapy, this question has bothered me for a while. I'm married and have been for a long time, but do you know I never looked into my husbands eyes when we've made love - never. Is it just me or do other people battle with that too?
I asked him. He was in the middle of one of his lengthy spiels about something and I just interrupted and said "What colour are your eyes?" and he said " I don't know."

So I had a good look and asked him to look towards the window light ( the window is normally behind him) and I STILL could not work out what colour his eyes are.

"I don't know either!"

He said "My dad's eyes are hazel and my mum's blue grey and I seem to have come out a mix of blue grey green and some hazel flecks"

It is true. It is IMPOSSIBLE to say what colour his eyes are.
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Blue. Beautiful.

She is beautiful when I look into her eyes but also intimidating.

She knows where my vulnerabilities are now. She knows that I hate silence after talking about something sensitive. She wants to stay with the moment and let me feel my vulnerability in front of her and when I look at her eyes, I feel so small and shameful.

She's so beautiful *sigh*. I feel like I'm in love with her or something. Frowner

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