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thanks for your response.
what type of therapy are you referring to that your current therapist does?

thanks.

hi there, do you mind if i ask you how you decided that kind of therapy was best for you? what lead you to conclude this?

im trying to decide what kind of therapist to look for. im not getting where id like in my current therapy.

makes complete and total sense. bravo. good work. congratulations!

Hi DaRock,

Interesting question.

I think that no matter what type of therapy you are doing you have to have a good relationship with your therapist. Without a good relationship you can't do the work you need to do to make progress. But I think that the type of therapy does matter.

I didn't do alot of research before getting into therapy, basically my family doctor gave me an ultimatum, either I needed to start taking anti-depressants or go into therapy but either way I needed to do something, because i was at her office all the time because of illness that was always relating back to depression (sore throats, sore ears, skin rashes, etc.). Since she has been my doctor for 30 years (and I am only 35 years old) it was easy for me to follow her advice and at least try talk therapy.

I went to the therapist that she recommended he and i talked for almost 3 sessions and then he told me he recommended psycho-dynamic psychotherapy and told me why. (He only does Supportive, PDPT,and CBT) I just accepted his word and went with it because frankly I was too scared shitless to think for myself. I thought I would be done in a few months and 4 years later, 135 sessions later I am still going.....

Having said all that, and after having done enough research to have complete a bach in psych i really believe that certain types of therapy work best for certain issues, people, problems.
For me I needed the space to explore how shitty a father the asshole was. I needed to hear myself tell the stories and come to understand that i might have been difficult as a teenager with him but that came as a result of years of emotional abuse and neglect, I was trying to defend myself. I wouldn't have had that opportunity in CBT, and while I might have made some progress with it, I needed to deep down understand more about why I feel what I feel about myself. I have transference issues that really have affected my ability to deal with men on alot of levels.

I guess all that to say that while Freud was more then a little hung upon sex and poo and pee, he did have some very good ideas that really have relevance in the human psyche. I think that idea of transference is more visible and relevant to those that didn't have secure parenting, or have suffered from trauma. If i remember correctly you are studying to be a therapist, maybe transference is more subtle in your life and harder to see. When you start working with clients where it is more ingrained and easier to see, it will be easier to accept.

That's my 2 cents,

Catnip

hi there, thanks for your input.
ultra, i think youre right. can you tell me, how you can tell she is not experienced enough? its hard for me to understand it. she always puts it on me. thank you.