If it would benefit you in a positive way, and it does sound like you do have permission, I think it's okay.

I've called my T to say thank you many times, to give feedback about session as well. It benefits me, and I do it because I meant it and it makes me feel good.

Since you've never tried before... I guess prepare that the worst to happen would be talking about it (the email) next session?

If it's really nerve racking perhaps you could create some of your art into a card or gift to bring?

It's funny you post this because I was just musing to myself about calling t2 to thank her for some somatic therapy today that was transformative.

Everybody likes to hear thank-you. And I bet T would like to know she must be doing something right in her work with you. And, especially if you rarely email, this would stand out as significant.

HOWEVER,if you are concerned about how you might feel if she doesn't respond or responds insufficiently, DON'T send an email. Maybe write a nice card and give it to her in session.

Don't know if this is right for you, but it is the advice I would need to hear in a similar situate.

(((About)))

I think it's important for you both to email the "thanks". I do it all the time. It's kind of like you're feeling safe enough to extend and express yourself and you really want T to know. She will appreciate the gesture, I am sure.

Hi About,

My T has the same policy as yours. Since you're not engaging or asking for e-therapy, I think emailing your T to say thank you would be very reasonable, but only if you're comfortable. If you're not, I would wait for session.

I've always struggled with emails. I've gone back and forth from emailing everyday to not emailing for weeks.

One thing my T said that was helpful was I should email because I want to email, not based on what I think his response will be. Give him the choice to respond. I shouldn't act based on an assumption of what I think his response will be. So if I feel like expressing something, I can. He won't reply because he won't do e-therapy, but I should email nonetheless. DOes that make sense? Hope that wasn't too confusing, but that's been helpful for me.

Glad you had a good session today!


PassionFruit

I'm pretty sure 'thank you' doesn't qualify as therapy via e-mail It's almost a kind of session closure? It leaves everything in a good place for next time perhaps?

sb

Thank you for your answers and sorry it took me some time to get back to you. I read carefully, and decided to... not send the email, just to make sure I keep the good feelings for now, and don't lose them over being anxious about an email. I made a small card to say thank you and I will give her next time (and will have ample time to feel awkward about it at that moment^^), and I don't want risk sending an email TOO enthusiastic to my T.

+ I am currently vaguely hypomanic (with meds, so it's "just a touch of it"), and I know I tend to suddenly send a lot of random emails to random people, from friends I have lost touch with for more than 10 years to 50 emails a day to my current friends... so... just in case, I'll stop connecting to my mail box for a few days, as a safety. I never send anything bad, but people sometimes get overwhelmed by my sudden and enthusiastic declarations of (friendly) love^^

Thank you all