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Hey All,

I'm new here, been reading for awhile... and I have to say that everything that I have read has helped me SO much. Thanks for being so open about your lives... I will continue to read and now that I'm registered, I will also post...

About me... i'm a mom of 2 boys, and married. I'm in therapy and so is my husband. I look forward to sharing more with you, but I look forward to being able to post now...
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Thanks everyone for such a warm welcome. So a little more background on me... my hubby of almost 10 years was a victim of abuse as a kid, and now after almost 10 yrs of marriage he's been willingly going to therapy for a year, and I started going when all his stuff started stirring up my own issues of abandonment etc. I didn't live a super hard life as a kid, just my parents chose their jobs over caring for me. its difficult to explain. My husband is, D.I.D. and we didn't really know that until last year... and now that I do, I'm able to love him with so much more understanding. Its really hard though too at the same time. I look forward to sharing more, and I really appreciate the warm welcome! THANKS!
Welcome to the forums Mama (may I call you that? Big Grin)I'm glad you decided to post. I have a couple of kids but I'm on the opposite end as you: two daughters, one is a sophomore in college and the other is a Senior in HS. Bless you, I remember the insanity well.

Thanks for sharing about you and your husband. I am very glad that he has a wife like you, who has been so supportive. I didn't recover memories of sexual abuse until I was well into my thirties, so my husband had no idea what he was getting into (although he also had some issues with his father) and I know how deeply I appreciate how he has stood by me and supported my healing all these years.

Looking forward to getting to know you better!

AG
Welcome to the boards Mama (hope that is okay to shorten, we do that around here!).

I have DID so I can understand what it must be like for your H and a little of what you might be going through from a spouses perspective. It has been hard for my H, but it is getting better and he is starting to feel less weird about it. I was diagnosed about 18 months ago.

Looking forward to getting to know you more!
Thanks everyone, yes Mama is fine Smiler I really appreciate the support...

AG- My husband was a victim of sexual abuse. Its not been easy these years being married, but I have no regrets!

STRM- Thanks for sharing, yes, its a tough thing at times for him to accept. He's on an antidepressant which seems to help with switching. Most of his parts are non-threatening, except for one, and that part makes me so sad and depressed. Fortunately, our counselor has made herself available to me by text, and so i text her frequently.
thanks R2G, Smiley, and Jones... I really appreciate the welcome. I think being married to someone who has been through so much, its easy for me to devalue my own need for support and therapy. I've learned so much and i've been reading posts on here for awhile about feelings towards T's and texting T's and I can totally relate. It was so refreshing to find this site a few months ago, and I was hesitant to post because I was worried that I might not be welcomed, i know stupid thing really, but that's part of my issues I guess...

Thanks again all for a kind, warm welcome!
It's not stupid at all. Even people whose issues seem so vast from my perspective struggle with feeling like their pain is "too much" or "not worthy of therapy," so I think that is an internalized message that a lot of us took in where we can't see ourselves valuable and our needs as justifiable. But, you are valuable! It's OK that you need help and so, so brave for both you and your H to be working through this together.

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