She is a really good hairdresser who does my hair in her home. We were friends first and then she offered to do my hair at her house at a discount. I still pay $75.00 for a cut and color so it's not that cheap.
But what has always bothered me is that she always complains about how people take advantage of her and friendships/relationships end. She tends to bend over backwards but I always worry about accepting her "kindness" because of her complaints about being taken advantage of. Then I feel compelled to perhaps tip or do something nice for her "kindness" so that she won't feel taken advantage of my me.
I called her last week to see if she could cut my hair today. She left a message telling me that she was going on vacation on wednedsy (tomorrow) and was all booked up on Tuesday (today). Tuesday is the day she works out of her house.
She told me that she couldn't do my hair until the 26th. I left her a message that I would take whatever she had on the 26th
A few days later I get a message from her that she could possibly fit me in Monday or Wednedsy and when was I available. I couldn't do either so she offered me a spot this morning at 9 with the caveat that I couldn't be late and I couldn't leave the house while my color was processing. (I often leave to go to the ATM to get money to pay her).
I agreed and I was ten minutes rarly this morning. I knocked. No one answered. I sat on her stoop for a few minutes then called to tell her I was here. She let me in at 8:57
She wasnt completely ready. She spent a few minutes organizing herself wtc and then put my color in. I was tired and didn't feel like chatting. I was hoping she had some housework or something to do while my color processed but she sat and talked to me for the 25 Minites.
While she was rinsing my hair, her next client came. At 10:08, she decides to put in highlights and color of the next client so her hair could process while she cuts my hair. Now it's almost a half an hour later and I am still waiting.
My anger has been building up for a long time over how long it takes to get my hair done. I usually have to sit a bit like today while she puts color in someone's hair but she knows that I am going on a long road trip today. She also talks a lot and I think uses the appointments to fulfill her social needs.
So now I have been here an hour and a half and she still hadn't cut my hair. Is that how long it would take if I went to a salon?
Why couldn't she have had me come at 9:30 so while my color was processing, she could color and highlight the woman she is doing now. I am so furious and trying to contain my anger.
I don't know if there is something I should say or can say to let her know I would rather not wait so long. Or should I just find a new hairdresser. You know how it is with hairdressers though. It's hard to find a good one. And she has done the best job with my difficult hair than anyone ever. Though I am willing to look for someone else but can this relationship be saved???
Okay now it's officially a half an hour.