Hi aprilk,
I'm sorry you ended up with being sad on your birthday even though your friends did lovely things for you.

Although I am in therapy I had people do something very generous for me on my birthday and I went off and cried...it all turned out ok in the end but I was very sad that that happened.

I've found myself wanting to be mean to friends. It sounds like your friends really care about you. You sound very sensitive and I can't tell you how to fix or how to help yourself but I know you/we can all help ourselves.

Sometimes I want to isolate but even more I don't want to be left with no people in my life.

I wish I could help but I just don't know what I can tell you to help.

We really do care here on this forum.

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Hopeful

Hi AprilK

I think most of us are inclined to compare ourselves to where we see others at times; rather than measure ourselves against how far we ourselves have come. What are the two mottos I'm trying to recall here? "Happiness is an inside job" and "live life from the inside out not from the outside in"

As much as we might see others seemingly moving on and having a life on the outside, we don't know how happy or sad they are on the inside.

I agree with hopeful that you do sound a very sensitive person, and having that degree of compassion and caring is a lovely thing to have, but the first person to care about is yourself; not in a selfish way of course, but in a kind compassionate way.

It must be so hard for you without a therapist but with this forum and internet resources available I hope you can start to find the help you need.



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[quote]hopeful[/quote
Yeah never mind

I'm sorry you had to be sad!!

Yes but sometimes i don't like being senstive.
That's alright, just writing back and knowing people have heard is good enough.

Thank you.

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avoidant

Avoidant,

What you said is so true!
I understand what you are trying to say!

Thats true. I sometimes know what they are from the inside!
I know, my friends tell me it is good to be sensitive. But i care too much and frankly sometimes i am really annoyed at myself for that! But the first person to care about is myself and i'll remember that!

YA thats ok..!! This forum helps.
And my friend is going for therapy so she said she can help me whatever she comes across and she is studying psychology so maybe in a few years i will get more help!

Hi aprilk,
Always risking what I say and how it comes out.

I can say I understand all of the things you had said in your original post.

I completely get the being sensitive stuff as I am also very sensitive and I hate it also, but I realize I'm not very good at conveying my thoughts or feelings about others' feelings which is why I don't often respond.

I really could relate to all that you said.

I hope you are feeling better and better each day!


Hopeful

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hopeful

hi,

Yes i am exactly the same.

I know you are trying to help me, so don't worry, you are!

Thank you