Ms. Control,
I have most articles on Ken Pope's website to be incredibly useful. I very much agree with the article. Although I must say, my T has pretty tight boundaries, and I don't think he has changed he way he practices for me (if he has, he has not given me a clue, but then again, he wouldn't), but he is very emotionally accessible even while keeping his own feelings out of the mix. He demonstrates his care more than speaks it, but that is because he is acutely aware that with my history, words don't mean anything, I will only learn to trust consistent actions. And while he is careful to keep his feelings out of the room, he is fairly open about the facts of his life (married, two kids, training, philosophy etc). Especially in the beginning, he would answer very detailed questions about vacation plans to help me get through breaks. So yes, I would agree that the article is pretty spot on, with the cavet that how it plays out in any particular dyad may look different dependent on the personality and strengths of both the T and the client. No two therapeutic relationships look exactly alike. Broad strokes can be similar.

AG