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The other day my son said to me "mom I don't think I ever want to live alone".

Boo tells me the same thing, that she is just going to live with mom forever, usually in response to my answering about different periods in my life, like when I talked about riding my bike around college, because I lived on campus. I don't go on about how she needs to be prepared to gout on her own someday. Life will figure all that out, whatever and whenever is right for her. I just enjoy that she feels safe with her family in the here and now. My T also looks at my child parts from that perspective and it helps reduce anxiety. Feeling safe like that as a kid was not something I had. I frequently daydreamed about getting stranded without my family on a desert island or being taken away from them some other way. So, if those internal kids have finally found somewhere safe enough to say, "I want to stay here forever," I think the quickest way to independence is to encourage and celebrate that safety.