I’m glad you could understand what I was going on about in my post, after I posted it I thought hm that’s a bit strong and was afraid I’d gone a bit over the top (though it’s what I do believe – at this point in time anyway). So it was good to read your post.
I’m sorry about your mother – that sounds awful. I’m constantly amazed at how unselfaware a lot of people (namely parents!) can be. Yeah I guess using the words they did the best they could can be a bit of a defence, I find it’s used more often by OTHERS telling me that, with the unspoken message that it’s actually something wrong with me for continuing to be f***ed up… which is why I react so negatively to it (even though I can see quite clearly that ultimately, that’s what I will end up believing – not just yet though.)
LL
p.s. just posted this and saw you'd edited your post, I haven't written anything revealing I hope, but wanted to keep this up as a reply to you regardless. If it bothers you let me know and I'll delete it.