Reply to "They did the best they could."

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"They did the best they could."

This is what my T says to me...about me. About my parenting of my own kids when I get overwhelmed with shame that they don't have a better mother, because they deserve more from me than what they get. Yes, they are getting better than what I got, but I am still passing on some of my junk to them. It seems to be the story of generations. And if I forgive myself for my best not being good enough, then it follows I have to apply that same compassion to my own parents. I have moments when I feel somewhat compassionate, but I can't hold onto it. I'm not ready to forgive either myself or them because its too much to feel to get there.

4/8/1110:01 AM

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