I didn't mean to divert the thread away from the original topic so much, but I want to give a brief reply to some of the concerns about my T's disclosures. I agree that - at least on the surface - it appears inappropriate for my T to share that info about the other client. I will admit that initially the information was shocking to me, because despite my jealousy I truly have no desire for harm to come to this client. So although I was disturbed to be caught in a bind between the opposing feelings of jealousy and genuine concern, it was also something I would have wanted to know. I would have probably been more upset if this client never showed up to another group therapy again because she was dead, but I was never told she was dead.

I think there would have been a time earlier in my relationship with T that this type of information sharing would have felt threatening to me, as far as trust in her keeping confidences goes. I can't adequately explain why that factor is not of concern to me now. I am quite certain that T did not share this information with all her clients, and perhaps with none of them except me. I do know that part of what she told me was due to my specific inquiry, but at least another reason was because some of what she told me (of which I did not post all the details) was of personal therapeutic value to me due to similarities in our cases. This level of information sharing is not a regular occurrence, however. I hope that helps alleviate your concerns.