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Reply to "Poll: Are you on a first name basis with T?"

The first times I saw T were in H's sessions, so I don't think T ever formally introduced himself. I know he's fine with being called anything. I cannot even say his name, only write it in an email, even Dr. (Last Name Initial) which is how I talk about him to H, etc. But a couple of CPs call him Dr. (First Name). One part has called him Captain Obvious a few times. I have heard other clients call him my his first name, no title, and when we have talked about what I might call him, he has referred to himself as either just his first name or Dr. (Last Name Initial), or other similar sounding things, because his name sounds similar to a word that means "crazy," to make fun of himself.

Yeah, I might be kind of put off by a T insisting on titles and then using my name, unless I had introduced myself (or been introduced) that way. I would want them to ask my preference, I guess...but in truth my preference is to hear my name (and especially other parts' names) said out loud as little as possible. I get a weird sort of anxiety about it. I think my T has picked up on it and mostly uses terms like "my dear" and such in a way that feels appropriate. He mostly only uses my name when talking to other parts, which was confusing to them for a while, for a really weird reason I'm too embarrassed to share.
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