Pengs, i think that's pretty insightful, and i really appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this. i guess i didn't put that much though into it, but there is potential for this to go awry, if for no other reason than my own stinking thoughts entering the picture about what's going on between the three of us. if i may be so vulnerable as to say i have had thoughts of them snickering, etc. about me (I KNOW they don't, but ...). i know these thoughts are transference-driven, so i just have to be as adult about this as possible.

i really like what you have to say about the way in which my doc has made clear that this is an entirely separate relationship from the one T and i share. thanks for illustrating that, it feels more special and intimate ... and safe.

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sometimes there may be times your T or you PCP may take a position or a perceived position you might resent or struggle with and knowing that each relationship is to be negotiated in its own right strikes me as really important in getting what you need from different professionals

this illustrates another potential transference-driven mine field ... sort of being ganged-up on and having the perception that "they" are in the drivers seat because "they" are the authority and "they" call all the shots. it does help to view them as separate entities, it's much less threatening, and much less likely to create resentment on my part.

(((Pengs))) i really do appreciate your input. thanks so much for sharing

Morgs, yes i do have very high regard for them both, and appreciate them both to no end. oh, Morgs ... keeping people isolated is one of my "strong" points as well! hide for shame! we'll get through it, though, cuz we're not shameful beings. you'll do it when you're ready. lean on us if you need to!