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Reply to "Music in Therapy"

Thank you all for the thoughtful comments.

Cat.. I wish I knew my T's favorite song or even favorite type of music. I do agree that sharing certain music can be very intimate because it says something about ourselves that can link to deep emotions. I guess that is why I have found it difficult to share music and also react with anxiety after I do share with T. I don't think we would ever play music in the background while in session as it's too distracting but playing a specific song for it's meaning is more likely.

Hi Affinity... I could never sing for my T... I have a god-awful voice. I wish I could sing. His daughter happens to be a singer and has an excellent voice. I was made fun of as a child whenever I sang so I normally don't. Music is a great way to communicate though and I think this is more my focus... using it as a way to communicate in an intimate way to enhance our relationship and to bring forth topics that are hard for me to talk about in T.

MsC... no "I" am the least artistic person on the planet. I am so untalented in that area but as someone once told me... I may not be artistic but I am VERY creative. I suppose that is true. I don't draw or paint but I write and am creative in other ways. Good to see you here. Thanks.

Monte... thank you for responding. I think it's so touching that when you and T have differences how you both work so hard to learn the other's language so you can continue to communicate. Even if your T only takes in the music on a dry level, he asks really good and pertinent questions which prompts further conversation or exploration of your feelings which are the important ones. I like that your T is honest about his struggles to meet you in the music. But I do get that you need that right brain to right brain connection. I struggle with that too and that is what I most long for and not sure how to get it. It happens sometimes when I'm not trying and it's wonderful.

I will take into consideration how it will feel if we dont' or can't connect through music or other means that we try. I think it's most important to be able to talk about it openly so there are no feelings of hurt or not being cared for. I do tend to jump right to that if my T ever shows any disinterest or indifference to anything that is important to me.

I saw T today but did not get a chance to tackle this topic. I had a few real life issues that popped up for me that needed to be addressed with T. Also some discussion of the anniversary of abandonment this week and my phone call to T. He was very pleased with my call and we talked about how that anniversary is less and less about oldT and more about where I am now and how I got here and about current T who I am very grateful for.

There is always next week Smiler
I'll keep you posted.

TN
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