((LIESE)) Thanks so much for your input, and yes, what you are saying makes a lot of sense. I sure agree that our actions are geared to either attachment or defense. My actions are fear and defense. You asked me if my T is cool with attachment, and I would say I don't think so, and here's why. I found myself getting kind of trusting of my T when I first started, because I opened up a little because he was caring. I know it was obvious to him that I was getting more trusting and attached. He was sharing with me because I think it was to get me to open up more, and than he said a few things about some of his experiences, and I was saying I was sorry for what he went through, I guess I was empathetic toward him, and I asked a couple very simple, basic questions that were totally respectful and within the boundaries, but he changed totally after that session, from a very empathetic T, to a cooled off and semi distant T. His concern and empathy is what finally allowed me once in my life, to start to open up and start to trust for the first time, because I felt he cared and did not act like a Psychology book, he acted like a concerned human being. I never talked to him about it, because I was to afraid to be terminated for whatever reasons I don't understand. I've had a lot of trauma, and for me to trust anyone is a huge deal. But I stuck my neck out and trusted, and participated in a conversation that I thought was about sharing our feelings, and I feel I was kicked in the A-- for it because I must have stepped on his delicate toes somehow, and I'm still clueless to his complete behavioral change. I just suck it up as usual, and I know that's wrong because it doesn't help me. My brain says: If T changed that much over a simple conversation that showed a little concern from me, what would happen if I were honest with him about how he has crushed my trust, that's why I just sucked it up and continue to stay quiet, its safer that way.