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(((EME)))

All of the conflicting feelings are SO brutal, aren't they? Get closer. No, that's too close. Back up. Not close enough. Move closer and on and on and on.

Is your T cool with attachment? I read somewhere that all of our actions are geared to either attachment or defense. The fear of getting hurt and being abandoned is clearly a defensive action. Therapy can't answer all our needs but it seems to me that we have to give into the attachment somewhat in order to benefit from the security of the relationship. If you continue with therapy the way things are now, your internal working model of intimacy will continue to have that defensive aspect to it. Does that make any sense?



((((SD))))

Have you looked into van der Hart's book, "Coping With Trauma Related Dissociation"? It might give you some direction. My T and I started on it today. He loves the book and is actually excited about working through it with me.
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