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I told my T one day that I was scared she was going to tell me I couldn't come anymore. She asked me if I had another T tell me that. I told her no (I've not had any other Ts). She said she has heard of other Ts doing that. She said, "I don't tell my clients that." Then she started talking about "some people" and "your best interests"....I wasn't following, I was so stuck on 'okay, she wasn't going to tell me I couldn't come anymore.' That day I talked about it I was terrified. I went through three sessions in a row where I was terrified of abandonment. I told her that I was terrified of "the end" (when I wouldn't see her anymore). I told her I wanted, so many times in the past months, early on, to quit coming because it was only going to get harder to quit going. She asked me if I was feeling like she was abandoning me and I said, "Yes." She said, "Then it is too soon." "Won't I always feel like that, at the end?" "No," she said. I guess I must have finally either (1) trusted her or (2) believed her or (3) both, because after three sessions of fear of abandonment, I moved on. I have huge fear of abandonment issues.... I've been with her 11.5 months.
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