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Reply to "Guilty - Have you told T?"

I can't find how to start a new PM conversation Frowner so I will try to answer here.
I went to therapy specifically about that "bad" thing, because I knew it could not go on, the guilt and shame (as well as the possible actual legal consequences) were eating me up. So I did not wonder too much on whether I was going to talk about it or not.
Then, the actual saying, I dont remember. Like everytime i decide to talk about sth really scary, My feelings and all were very "dulled" because I absolutely did not want to feel the additional shame.
Emotional impact a bit later: because I had mentioned it + the T had reacted not so positively (she actually saw my actions as even worse than I did, but the fact that she did not know me at all can explain this reaction) made me feel terrible for several weeks... I was disgusted with myself/feeling I was a monster.
However, on the long-run, it was definitely the right choice to make, because this was such an important thing in my life, and not mentioning it(as I had done it with the previous Ts) made the therapy a bit pointless because avoiding something central and I definitely needed support/help with.
Impact IRL: varied over time, brought on tons of shame, but also acceptance and the ability to "integrate" that side of me, without saying it was right or good, but with a less "i must kill this monster in me" reactions (well, a bit less, it is a work in progress)
Not sure i answered your question? (Feel free to PM for more specific details, I simply cant find how to do it technically^^)
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