Hi TAS - I hope I didn't come across as dismissive! I totally know how terribly difficult it is to
just tell your T about stuff. It has taken me many weeks/months to talk about some things too, so I definitely get how hard it is. But yes, keep going and keep trying. Little by little. That's how I'm trying to look at it. Doesn't have to come out all at once, but taking little risks is so important.