BH, Hi...Just happened to see this post. There is no such thing as "normal". Try to believe that. Try to stay in the present also. Working through family garbage takes a very long time. I have the scars to prove it. But it sounds like you are heading in the right direction. Speaking about your pain is where a lot of the healing takes place. But try to accept that is a long, slow process. You'll see...in time you will begin to feel better, I promise!