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Fear of Intimacy - the cliched truth

AG, Thanks for the welcome and response. Your explanation really helped, though for reasons other than abuse. I had a very safe upbringing, but honesty was a "threat" to my emotional safety and physical safety by the end of elementary school. It does help to understand where the fear is coming from. Heldincompassion, your answer was so honest that it really pushed me into reflection. He is a musician and really puts his feelings out there. He's also so open about his anxiety. The thing is,...Read More...
It's the anniversary of my mother's death in a few days - so I'm also thinking it might be better to re-evaluate things AFTER I get through this next week. The abandonment issues are hyper-sensitive right now, and her approaching anniversary is definitely playing a part in that .Read More...

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To email or not to email?

about
Thank you for your answers and sorry it took me some time to get back to you. I read carefully, and decided to... not send the email, just to make sure I keep the good feelings for now, and don't lose them over being anxious about an email. I made a small card to say thank you and I will give her next time (and will have ample time to feel awkward about it at that moment^^), and I don't want risk sending an email TOO enthusiastic to my T. + I am currently vaguely hypomanic (with meds, so...Read More...

Terrified of my mom

passionfruit
(((PF))) I dont have anything to do with my mum for similar reasons. I moved 400miles from my FOO and then my parents split and she moved in round the corner. I did my best, but her abuses continued, my children suffered. In the end I moved house, so I'm now 3 miles away. I never see her. She has spent the 10 years up here telling people I'm a bad person - how much I let her down (she was doing that all the while eating every day at my house and having me help her all that time). So, she has...Read More...

Feeling so alone - limited T support

eva
No. I have 2 threads - one about the abandonment trauma triggered by my caseworkers failing me, and this one about how alone I feel due to that support falling apart and having limited support from my T. Sorry Trying to process what happened today at my Ts. I let her do things for me and I feel a bit yuck about it. Like I violated my own boundaries in the process. It felt really really uncomfortable and wrong, her making all those calls to try to help me. She phoned me a total of THREE times...Read More...

Carving out therapy time

catalyst
I used to book childcare for my toddler and then have to go pick her up right after therapy It was hard going. Now she is in school and I have therapy on fridays (different T), which is my day off from work. It's a long drive, so 1 hour of therapy takes 4 hrs of my day - and when I get home I often just get in bed until 3pm - when I pick her up from school. It often means I'm not in a great place over the weekend, as I'm processing stuff. sbRead More...

Ts and Touch

ladygrey
What is your Ts policy on touch? He'll hug clients if they ask, except me. Haven't asked why. Have you touched your T? Shook his hand 3x. Strange because he always says we're "emotionally close, physically distant." But a few months ago, I brought family to the session. After shaking all their hands, he shook my hand, too. Never talked about it afterward. Have you hugged your T? Nope. Never asked and don't anticipate asking in the future since he said, "If you ask me for a hug, I will say...Read More...

feeling broken

ghostgirl
ElizaJ, Yes. I have been on it. It is awesome! Thank you. Yes having my old T out there brings me so much comfort. Our therapy time together is complete, but she is always there when/if I need a recharge or consultation.Read More...
I might ask if I knew the therapist liked plants. I would not just thrust a plant on anybody but that could be because I don't garden at all and I don't really want the burden of a plant thrust on me. When it happens, I politely acknowledge the gift and then dispose of it. So I don't find the idea of giving plants to a therapist wrong in a vacuum, but it would depend upon the hobbies of the therapist for me.Read More...

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I have been thinking about this topic since it was first posted. I'm not sure I necessarily feel attached to objects. Rather, it is the meaning or memory attached to the object. Since I've been going through the things in my mother's house, I've been "considering" a lot of objects. There are things my mom kept, because they had meaning to her - a Rainbow Girl badge, her father's wallet - and lots, lots more. I struggle, because the item has no personal meaning to me, yet I know that it did...Read More...

Everything's Connected

redtomato
Draggers, First, nonsense about you and thinking! I, too, get that connection to nature. To both the beauties and the horrors. I see dead deer on the side of the road about twice a week and my insides cry with the brutal loss of those connections. The awe I feel in my backyard for the beautiful plants and flowers and noisy squirrels and birds will often connect me to myself and a deep stillness and acceptance, for the moment, at least. I realize that my behavior and choices lead me to these...Read More...

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Ms Control, I am also on medication and Wellbutrin is one that I take. It is my understanding that 150 mg is a starting dose and the typical therapeutic dose is 300 mg. While you may be gaining some benefit, there may be more you can experience with an adjustment of the dose or with a different medication or with an added medication. Anti-depressants are often combined with mood-stabilizers to help even out your feelings. Talk with your doctor. Let him/her know more specifically how you feel...Read More...
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