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I have a pretty intense case of erotic transference toward my therapist which used to make me jealous when I would see here with a male client, or speaking to another man in the office. I even thought one guy was her husband. This made me very jealous. I originally thought she might be gay, and that belief fit into my fantasies nicely. When I found out she had a husband I was sad. She asked me how it made a difference to me. I told her I thought it was cool if she were gay, but now here...Read More...
Skylnyx..I totaly agree with you. Most of the time it is not about sex. It's about acceptance in my situation. Society uses sex as a weapon. I prefer female doctors, (T's and MD's) because I feel like they have more compassion. I am new to this forum and am getting into some of the posts. I applaud the people who post here. They show great strength even if they do not see it in themselves. I have found over the years what people don't say speaks louder that what they do say. Some of the...Read More...
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Hurting to be attached

Why does it hurt so much to be attached to my t? The harder I try to fight it, the worse it gets... I promised myself I would never allow it, and yet I find myself now in the middle of those feelings. Do I carry on or do I rather leave before it gets out of hand?Read More...
I just added a Free eCourse on getting through transference - it's a developmental perspective. Currently, there's no sign in required and yes, no strings attached. (Just so you know this is one of the ways I promote my mind-body approach to transference in the Therapy Bootcamp program.)Read More...
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Hello everyone, it’s been a while for me to post here. Having a moment of relaxing time now since I just finished my exams and thesis writing and ready to graduate. I would like to know are there books well-written related to Asperger’s syndrome, in the spectrum of Autism? My partner is so much alike having Asperger’s, she doesn’t understand people’s emotions, her own emotions etc. I am having a hard time to foster her emotional self. I know it could be improved, and I hope to do my very...Read More...
Type in aspie in youtube & will get tons of video channels on it. Not books, but educationalRead More...
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Books on Metapsychology.

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Hello! I would like to start studying Metapsychology and mainly: The dynamic point of view - id, ego, superego. The economic point of view - libido. The structural point of view - structure of the unconscious. Please let me know of acknowledged bibliography and articles. Although a beginner, please don't hesitate to include advanced books on these subjects. Thank you, Askalot.Read More...

Psychcafe Primer

Attachment Girl
Greetings all, I've created a small primer for the new forum format that covers some of the more commonly used tasks. It's in PDF format attached to this post. All feedback is welcome, including identifying typos or tasks you'd like to see documented. Just reply to this post! Thanks! AGRead More...
Hi Shelonged, Thanks for the reply and info! I did find the introduction section and made a post. I will need to do some exploring around the site. I'm sure even from the little I've seen that it could be a helpful activity. I like learning about people.Read More...
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Happy books that reinforce therapy

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about
Hi, I was thinking I could ask you all a question I stumbled upon in therapy. I am a "big" reader, and books are hugely important in my life, and most of the books I used to like had "unhealthy" worldviews (I mean, if you think that Wuthering Heights describes how the world really is, you'll probably end up not being happy). But I noticed I also have a number of books that are the embodiments of ... things I explore in therapy: it is fine to have feelings, it is going to be okay, it is okay...Read More...
There is "My Family and Other Animals" by Durrell about his childhood on Corfu. It's a happy, carefree book, with very gentle humor. "Theophilus North" by Wilder is a novel about a young man gently helping different people overcome their difficulties (many of which are psychological). The book, considering the theme, is remarkably devoid of angst, grief and pathos. It's quite light, respectful and a bit mischievous. One of my favorite children books is the Moomins book. Moomins are a nice,...Read More...
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I am current reading "Get Me Out of Here - My recovery from borderline Personality Disorder" by Rachel Reiland. I have also read "Waking Up - Climbing through the darkness" by Terry Wise (detailing her su attempt and recovery). What I love about both books is they include a tremendous amount of the conversations that happen within the therapy sessions. Does anyone have any other books that also do that?Read More...
I love the book "The last asylum" by Barbara Taylor. It is mostly about the history of asylums in England but it also talks a lot about her own struggles and her 20+ year analysis.Read More...
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Healing Developmental Trauma

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True North
I'm reading this book Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self Regulation, Self Image and the Capacity for Relationship by Laurence Heller, Ph.D This is by far the best book I have read on trauma in it's ability to talk to me about SO many of the things I have struggled and wrestled with throughout my life. This book gives me explanations for why I feel the way I do and what causes these feelings. The book talks about the NARM method - Neuro Affective Relational Model. The...Read More...
I can definitely understand how it could be triggering. For me, it was actually relieving to read about the Connection survival style and recognize myself in it, because it gave me a sense of recognition, order, and understanding.Read More...
Last Reply By iverson · First Unread Post
Hi to all! Just wondering if anyone read this book, my T strongly recommended I read it. she said, she doesn't want to wait until I'm reading it as a psychology student. I love the way she's made up her mind although I am still undecided about studying...Read More...
Thank you for the recommendation. I always love to read books about relationships, etc. I'm currently reading "Manic" by Terri Cheney. I've finished the prequel to this book about her childhood. I'd recommend it to you guys. It's about Terri's personal experience of living with Bipolar Disorder and how she knew she was different from age 7 when she attempted suicide. It's quite profound. SadieRead More...
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Splitting of the Ego in the borderline/psychotic cases.

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Hello everyone! I would like books/papers suggestions, on this subject: It's formal definition(s)? The processes/stages it follows? The various possible causes? Clinical examples? My level of knowledge on psychology / classical psychoanalysis theory, is a level above average, however please don't hesitate to suggest me, studying hard material. Thank you, AskalotRead More...
Askalot I’m not aware of any psychology forum’s for students, but maybe you could have a Google, see what comes up and if you like the feel of it. Also, if you are struggling, try going to the library, they can help not only with books. I’m not sure how old you are, but they can help you with research techniques, so you can utilise better ways of finding the info, especially via journals, you are seeking.Read More...
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I need a new book

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liffey
Okay peep, I am coming up to a difficult month of holidays and breaks from therapist. I find reading really helps me at this time. However I aam unsuer what to read next. My Kindle is suggesting heaps of books but none of them seem quite right- or at least I do not know enough about them to let myself buy them! So here's what I've read on the topic so far: A General Theory of Love Some Yalom bbooks Wallin's book about attachment Healing Developmental Trauma The Body Keeps the Score Something...Read More...
I just finished Stop Lying: Getting Un-Lost and Un-Stuck in Your Life. Found it to be a great book for a time without my therapist. Its by Bennett Pologe Phd.Read More...
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Two books relevant to members of this forum!

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I wanted to post about a few books I've been reading that I think would be tremendously helpful for most of the members here. First: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay Gibson This book is about understanding the effects of parents who might not be considered overtly abusive or neglectful, but were still lacking somehow. It goes into depth about how you might develop chronic feelings of loneliness, or feel trapped playing a role. It also contains a very helpful section...Read More...

Read this!

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liffey
http://momastery.com/blog/2016/08/07/only-words-and-music-and-angels/Read More...
"They are in great pain and that’s because they are paying attention." This answers a BIG question for me. Once I asked Quick T ( thats how I refer to her) why she doesn't prescribe meds for me. In her best Doctor tone she responded, "Do you want meds?" I said, "No, I guess not. (I just wanted to find an easier way to do therapy.) Some months later in the midst of doing the HARD work, and thinking about suicide (not like me to think that way), I asked her again, "So many people take meds,...Read More...
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Glennon Doyle Melton

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elphaba
I found this writer through reading Brené Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert and Rob Bell. I have been deeply influenced by all four writers. Just now I'm halfway through Love Warrior by GDM having read her first book, Carry On Warrior in less than a day. She's a former alcoholic which I'm not, and yet so much of what she speaks resonates with me. Even as a non American. I would highly recommend. El.Read More...
Yeah - I love her blog! There was a piece about jealousy that was really incredible. XRead More...
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An introductory book on "Transference".

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Hello, I am very new to the theory of Psychoanalysis, so I am looking for an introductory book on the consept of Transference. Thank you, Askalot.Read More...
Hello Attachment Girl and thank you for your answer! Could I ask if Transference occurs when psychotic men (sorry, I don’t know the official definition of this term) very often believe that there are strong-male enemies who want to take away from them, idealized women? Thank you, Askalot.Read More...
Last Reply By askalot · First Unread Post
Food is so many things. So many different things, so many contradictory things. Food is great. The tastes, the textures the varieties. There are some favorite foods that I can remember eating for the first time. Those are great memories, like the first time meeting a great friend. Food is a reward. Life is tough, and something delicious can make me happy, make a bad day, seem better. Food is rebellion. No one is suppose to eat of "this" or the whole bag of "that". But I want to so I'm going...Read More...
I've seen this book in my T's office but have not read it before. I'm glad it has helped you! i believe it is very true about weight being a distraction and food used as a way to act that out. If food is love it makes sense for me - or if food is safety - because I know I reject food when it is likely I need love the most. i wish you luck in your ED journey. I've been battling an grab bag of anorexia w/ bulimia as well.Read More...
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Your voice in my head

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summer
I read this book thinking it might be a reflection on internalization, but I was disappointed overall and wondered if anyone else has read it and has thoughts. It's a true story, and apparently a fairly popular book because it's going to be made into a movie. Maybe it was the style of writing which put me off, or the focus on the author's famous boyfriend, instead of her P. The P's death was shocking and devastating for many of his patients because he didn't tell them he was even sick, let...Read More...
Hi Exploring, Thank you for believing I'm a good writer. I have thought about writing an article describing what I went through trying to find help after my P died, because I had to be proactive and I think I should have received more support from my P's colleagues, but my case isn't that unusual. Also how difficult it is coming to terms with the grief when you can't attend a memorial, meet with friends and family who share the grief as we normally do when someone close to us dies. You...Read More...
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